How To Find Clarity in Your Life
When most people enter a new year, they usually have a bunch of resolutions and expectations for that year.
What they want it to look like, what they hope to accomplish, what bad habits they hope to stop and etc.
And this is great, because it means that they have a “direction” that they want to head in for the year.
But even with those goals, many people still aren’t clear about either how they want to accomplish those goals or even why they want to accomplish them.
That’s most people start to feel lost, or that they don’t have any clarity.
Now this can be applied to any and all areas of your life… if you don’t, at least, know the why or the how of the things you are doing in your life, you will feel directionless.
What is clarity?
A quick Google search will tell you that clarity is defined as “the quality of being coherent and intelligible” or “the quality of being certain or definite”.
These definitions perfectly describe what many people look for in different areas of their lives.
I’m sure you would love it if you could be “certain” that the career you go into will be the perfect one for you.
Or if the person you’re about to marry is “definitely” the right person for you.
Even though you may not have the clear answer for those things in life, there are other areas where you can find clarity.
You want to have clarity in life
It is quite normal, especially in your teen years and 20’s, for you to feel directionless in life.
This is the age where you are learning who are as a person; what you like and don’t like, what morals and belief systems, what kind of friends you want to be around, what career may interest you and etc.
But sadly a lot of times, we stay stuck in that place of “not knowing” — and what happens is we may ask our selves those questions, and the answer we come up with is “I don’t know”.
However, I don’t believe that it is truly because you don’t know… I think you know, but you are scared to face the truth about yourself.
You don’t want to answer those questions, and then end up being just like your parents. Or you are scared that your parents/partner/family/friends would be disappointed in you.
Or maybe you don’t want to feel like you have to be stuck in that decision that you made, or choice that you picked.
I understand how you feel more than I’d like to admit, but having clarity in your life starts with making a decision.
Overcoming fear is the first step
First things, first: it starts with you letting go of that fear to make a decision.
The Word of God says in 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind”.
Now as a recovering indecisive person, I know how hard and scary it can be to make a choice, because you don’t want to be wrong.
Humans hate to be wrong, but the only way to find the answers that you are looking for is by making a decision.
Then you would be able to see if it works out. But first, you will need to overcome the fear of choosing.
Decide. Decide whether you have a favorite color, whether you prefer pasta or pizza, or if like the beach or the pool.
Now, don’t laugh.
I know these might look like simple questions, but when you are able to be decisive about the small things like this, it will give you the confidence to make more definite decisions about bigger things in your life.
Do you actually know who you are?
Another big reason that you might not have clarity in your life is that you don’t know who you are (or whose you are).
The Bible says in 1 Peter 2:9, “But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”.
When you truly understand that, as a Christian, you are a child of God, you will begin to look at your life differently.
You begin to think about how you behave, think, and speak (no matter where you are).
You start to move in a way that you know aligns with the Word of God.
This change is freeing and “mind-opening”, because now you have clarity on how you want and are going to live your life.
This allows you to think about your life decisions in a way that aligns with who you are, and what your morals and beliefs are.
The direction you want your life to be heading in becomes much clearer when you make a decision (starting to see a theme here?) about who are you, and are confident in that identity.
What are you made to do?
Now that you know who and whose you are, what are you created to do?
I know this question can be frightening, annoying and/or daunting for a lot of people, for many reasons.
But it is so saddening when I see that someone believes they don’t have an gifts or talents.
Listen to me, and listen to me well…
EVERYONE HAS A TALENT/GIFT.
Sorry for the all caps “yelling”, but I wanted to make sure this point is well understood.
God created each individual with a gift that they are uniquely good at. And it can be anything!
It could something as a “big” as singing (and I put big in quotations, because singing as a gift or talent gets a lot of recognition), or something as “simple” as being very organized, or being a great reader, or hugger.
But even before you start to worry and wonder about what your gift/talent is, the main thing I want to remember is this:
Everyone was, first and foremost, created to worship and glorify God.
(I didn’t put this in all caps, because I didn't want to yell at you again lol.)
The Bible says in Psalm 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Because you know that you were created by a loving Creator, your purpose is to willingly love and praise Him.
In the moment that you feel lost and confused about what you were placed on earth to do, just return to your default:
You were made to worship/praise/bring glory to God.
In you trying to live a life that constantly does that, the Holy Spirit will guide and show you all the ways that you can do that with your life.
Your gift and/or your talent was given to you to, first, bring God glory then to bless the world (in a way that leads them back to Christ).
And if you don’t know what your gift/talent is, it’s probably the thing that you find so easy or simple to do, you think everyone else is able to do it too.
(Let me tell you a quick secret: they probably can’t do that thing as easily as you do.)
So how do you get clarity in your life?
As a recap, the ways that you can (finally) get some clarity in your life is by:
Overcoming fear (2 Timothy 1:7)
Knowing who you are (1 Peter 2:9)
Understanding that your purpose is to glorify God with your gifts/talents (Psalm 139:14)
When you take these steps, you find that you had a lot more clarity about your life than you thought you did. You just need God’s help to open your eyes.
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